Being and Doing Queer

being queer has been natural and effortless for me as my sex, gender identity, and gender expression are conveniently aligned. this also means it’s easy for me to not “do” much queer. I’ve gotten away with doing the bare minimum. sometimes bare minimum is good enough but I know I can afford to make more…

Quiet morning with a slightly sore brain

woke up, set up the desk to do some journaling. feeling slightly lightheaded. wanted to listen to something but nothing too intense (my mp3 collection), or distracting (podcast). launched Spotify. Daily Mix 1, briefly saw it’s filled with artists whose names I’ve never heard of. curious what did I listen to recently that spawned this…

Being and Doing

We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a…

To share or not to share

I was listening to Afford Anything – What’s the Point of Happiness, Anyway?, with Dr. Bill Von Hippel. He proposed that as alternative to accumulating stuff, a better strategy would be to buy experiences instead. He suggested: Do stuff with your money that allows you to be more of the person you want to be,…

Senses over lenses

How much of your day to day experiences and activities are related to being in front of screens? For me, it’s at least 14 hours. Especially since the pandemic. I sleep for average of 7.5 hours per day. I do knowledge work for average of 6.5 hours per day. The remainder of the time I…

Managing your psychology as an investor

I noticed an interesting parallel across a couple of recent experiences: dealing with the ups and downs that comes with the risk of making any investment decisions. Imagine four scenarios: you decided to hop onto the cryptocurrencies bandwagon when your investing app drops you a notification that there seems to be significant decrease on the…

Should I switch career? To what?

Five lines of questioning to get clearer on how to make some extra income doing what you enjoy doing (requiring honest, iterative, and messy answers!). This is not a guide to “make money doing what you love”, “follow your passion”, yadda yadda…. This is about exploring alternative when you find yourself drifting further apart, growing…

The past 6 months

punya bisnis kecil, nggak seindah itu. punya karyawan itu ribet. nanganin kasbon, menjaga loyalty, nggak bisa autopilot lepas tangan total, butuh maintenance. kecuali udah ngebangun tim. punya investasi terdiversifikasi, nggak seindah itu. banyak nyangkutnya. mesti long term, tapi juga ketar ketir hehehe punya ekposure / channel / pintu masuk ke banyak belahan dunia juga berasa…