Salah satu konsep berguna yg gw sadari sekarang adalah bahwa istirahat itu ada dua aspek: aktif dan pasif. Sedangkan gw hanya terbiasa melakukan segala2nya secara aktif. Try harder, do more, be better. Ternyata istirahat / “healing” / refreshing itu nggak selalu bisa “didapatkan”, dipercepat, diakali / di-hack. Kadang istirahat itu lebih cocok diundang, dipersilakan masuk,…
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You need purpose. If you can’t find purpose, you pursue happiness. If you can’t find happiness, you pursue pleasure. Find purpose, you get all three. It’s more mentally draining to be purposeless than to be challenged every day by difficult goals that 1) you believe in (no matter how silly it really is, know you’re…
There are two hard problems in blogging: picking a title (before you know what you want to say) figuring out what you want to say [*]. This post is me trying to find good-enough solution for the first problem [**]. Did some testing with markpress. Conclusions: the markdown filename is independent off the post title.…
being queer has been natural and effortless for me as my sex, gender identity, and gender expression are conveniently aligned. this also means it’s easy for me to not “do” much queer. I’ve gotten away with doing the bare minimum. sometimes bare minimum is good enough but I know I can afford to make more…
woke up, set up the desk to do some journaling. feeling slightly lightheaded. wanted to listen to something but nothing too intense (my mp3 collection), or distracting (podcast). launched Spotify. Daily Mix 1, briefly saw it’s filled with artists whose names I’ve never heard of. curious what did I listen to recently that spawned this…
We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a…
no need to finish. you’ll know when to stop no need to go linearly. you can skip around no need to read everything on the page before continuing when you’re stuck, try reading backwards from the last sentence up. don’t worry, it’s probably not you, some books are not written in an easily digestible way…
I was listening to Afford Anything – What’s the Point of Happiness, Anyway?, with Dr. Bill Von Hippel. He proposed that as alternative to accumulating stuff, a better strategy would be to buy experiences instead. He suggested: Do stuff with your money that allows you to be more of the person you want to be,…
How much of your day to day experiences and activities are related to being in front of screens? For me, it’s at least 14 hours. Especially since the pandemic. I sleep for average of 7.5 hours per day. I do knowledge work for average of 6.5 hours per day. The remainder of the time I…
I noticed an interesting parallel across a couple of recent experiences: dealing with the ups and downs that comes with the risk of making any investment decisions. Imagine four scenarios: you decided to hop onto the cryptocurrencies bandwagon when your investing app drops you a notification that there seems to be significant decrease on the…