Being and Doing Queer

being queer has been natural and effortless for me as my sex, gender identity, and gender expression are conveniently aligned. this also means it’s easy for me to not “do” much queer. I’ve gotten away with doing the bare minimum. sometimes bare minimum is good enough but I know I can afford to make more…

Work or Play

You know this is true: the fastest way to hate / get sick of / change your perception of a song: use it as your ringtone / hear it being used in an ad. Let me now pose another platitude I’m sure you’ve heard before: Find a job you enjoy doing, and you will never…

Revenue Targets Are Arbitrary and Absurd

Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end. – Bob Marley You know that feeling when you repeat a word so many times it became absurd and seemingly lost its meaning? Apparently it’s called Semantic Satiation. I recently observed something similar at…

Just the way things are

I now have 3 areas in my house set up quite well for productive / proper work! I used to only be able to work in my bedroom (been working remotely) but then gets boring and dangerous for risk of burnout. Now I can switch around between my bedroom, my brother’s old bedroom, and the…

How to set good (useful) goals

How to set yourself up for success by playing with the way you frame goals Example #1 Goal version 1: do 30 mins of cardio session, then take a cold shower. X Not so fun. Goal version 2: heat my body up enough to be able to enjoy the cold shower. √ Motivated and enjoyed…

Judging Digital Nomads

I can’t be the only one who finds these “work hard anywhere” photos in Instagram as silly and shady, can I? When I work, I look at screens. My sight and thought are completely glued there. I am focused. In flow. If I am at some place nice, then I want to enjoy the view…

Why dying is the way to live wisely

One of the things I’m struggling most with is this concept of legacy. I’m a planner. Before this diagnosis I’d been thinking of my 1st 35 years — aside from being a ton of fun and travel — as preparation. I felt like I was building a platform (savings, networks, skills, experience) that I could then use in my…