The power of saying something out loud

At the risk of sounding socially inept and imperceptive, until very recently I’ve underestimated the magic and power of the act of 1) saying something out loud, 2) being witnessed, and 3) witnessing others in relationships. “If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment.…

[30hbc] Paying for conversations and miscellaneous

idk what it is about conversations that allow them to draw insight out of you with ease. Looking at prompts and exercises in workbooks, I don’t feel motivated to work on them. It’s different than if I imagined someone asking me those Qs. The latter feels more effortless and engaging. I guess this is what…

I’m retired (for now) – Part 1: Mindset shifts

Hello friend, I’m reporting back 7 weeks into this mini retirement and I just want to say that I finally begun to feel more rested. I resigned mid May, interestingly one year since I published the “I can retire but I don’t” post. I survived the excruciating 2.5 months of extended notice period till the…

Istirahat Pasif

Salah satu konsep berguna yg gw sadari sekarang adalah bahwa istirahat itu ada dua aspek: aktif dan pasif. Sedangkan gw hanya terbiasa melakukan segala2nya secara aktif. Try harder, do more, be better. Ternyata istirahat / “healing” / refreshing itu nggak selalu bisa “didapatkan”, dipercepat, diakali / di-hack. Kadang istirahat itu lebih cocok diundang, dipersilakan masuk,…

Quiet morning with a slightly sore brain

woke up, set up the desk to do some journaling. feeling slightly lightheaded. wanted to listen to something but nothing too intense (my mp3 collection), or distracting (podcast). launched Spotify. Daily Mix 1, briefly saw it’s filled with artists whose names I’ve never heard of. curious what did I listen to recently that spawned this…

Welcoming and perceiving beauty

“You cannot perceive beauty but with a serene mind.” Thoreau This, basically, what I was talking about RE:any simple moment could be a joyful one if we’re in a healthy state of mind & physical capacity. Serene mind, calm heart, and healthy body can make any moment beautiful. Our perception is mainly guided and limited…

Would you do it to your kid?

Still felt tired after napping for extra 2 hours on top of the 4.5 hours of sleep last night. Debated if I should let myself sleep more right now (only 7pm) and not worry about writing or feel guilty of not being more productive. Reason is I’ve spent 4h and 16m fiddlin with my phone…

Reverse Engineering a Good Day

Reverse Engineering a Good Day

I thought I have cracked the code to having a good day. I’ve been tracking my time and activities on spreadsheets since Dec 2018. I know the hours I sleep, the things I eat, my mental clarity, my physical fitness, what I consumed that day, what I produced aka achieved that day (non work related),…

Annual Me-Time: A Reset

Conscious I haven’t published anything proper for almost 45 days(?). So, a couple of life updates. I’ve been hermitting in my apartment for the past 3 weeks from late September. It’s only an hour drive away from my house and I feel kinda bad for not wanting to go back home just yet, still enjoying…