Permission

i don’t need to be brief. i don’t need to be coherent. i dont need to be heard/read/understood i don’t need to be comprehensive, correct / valid forever no need to fit into any template, mine or others out of the vast “catalogue” out there. you have my full permission to sleep, eat, read, listen…

Istirahat Pasif

Salah satu konsep berguna yg gw sadari sekarang adalah bahwa istirahat itu ada dua aspek: aktif dan pasif. Sedangkan gw hanya terbiasa melakukan segala2nya secara aktif. Try harder, do more, be better. Ternyata istirahat / “healing” / refreshing itu nggak selalu bisa “didapatkan”, dipercepat, diakali / di-hack. Kadang istirahat itu lebih cocok diundang, dipersilakan masuk,…

Relationship between purpose, happiness, and pleasure

You need purpose. If you can’t find purpose, you pursue happiness. If you can’t find happiness, you pursue pleasure. Find purpose, you get all three. It’s more mentally draining to be purposeless than to be challenged every day by difficult goals that 1) you believe in (no matter how silly it really is, know you’re…

Being and Doing Queer

being queer has been natural and effortless for me as my sex, gender identity, and gender expression are conveniently aligned. this also means it’s easy for me to not “do” much queer. I’ve gotten away with doing the bare minimum. sometimes bare minimum is good enough but I know I can afford to make more…

Quiet morning with a slightly sore brain

woke up, set up the desk to do some journaling. feeling slightly lightheaded. wanted to listen to something but nothing too intense (my mp3 collection), or distracting (podcast). launched Spotify. Daily Mix 1, briefly saw it’s filled with artists whose names I’ve never heard of. curious what did I listen to recently that spawned this…

Being and Doing

We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a…

To share or not to share

I was listening to Afford Anything – What’s the Point of Happiness, Anyway?, with Dr. Bill Von Hippel. He proposed that as alternative to accumulating stuff, a better strategy would be to buy experiences instead. He suggested: Do stuff with your money that allows you to be more of the person you want to be,…