The power of saying something out loud

At the risk of sounding socially inept and imperceptive, until very recently I’ve underestimated the magic and power of the act of 1) saying something out loud, 2) being witnessed, and 3) witnessing others in relationships. “If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment.…

[30hbc] Paying for conversations and miscellaneous

idk what it is about conversations that allow them to draw insight out of you with ease. Looking at prompts and exercises in workbooks, I don’t feel motivated to work on them. It’s different than if I imagined someone asking me those Qs. The latter feels more effortless and engaging. I guess this is what…

I’m retired (for now) – Part 1: Mindset shifts

Hello friend, I’m reporting back 7 weeks into this mini retirement and I just want to say that I finally begun to feel more rested. I resigned mid May, interestingly one year since I published the “I can retire but I don’t” post. I survived the excruciating 2.5 months of extended notice period till the…

Quiet morning with a slightly sore brain

woke up, set up the desk to do some journaling. feeling slightly lightheaded. wanted to listen to something but nothing too intense (my mp3 collection), or distracting (podcast). launched Spotify. Daily Mix 1, briefly saw it’s filled with artists whose names I’ve never heard of. curious what did I listen to recently that spawned this…

Reverse Engineering a Good Day

Reverse Engineering a Good Day

I thought I have cracked the code to having a good day. I’ve been tracking my time and activities on spreadsheets since Dec 2018. I know the hours I sleep, the things I eat, my mental clarity, my physical fitness, what I consumed that day, what I produced aka achieved that day (non work related),…

Annual Me-Time: A Reset

Conscious I haven’t published anything proper for almost 45 days(?). So, a couple of life updates. I’ve been hermitting in my apartment for the past 3 weeks from late September. It’s only an hour drive away from my house and I feel kinda bad for not wanting to go back home just yet, still enjoying…

Exhausted [share]

Exhausted (25,000 dawns)

I remember Before Now. I used to get on planes and hop time zones and teach leadership programs and give speeches that made me vibrate with anxiety beforehand. I used to have a gruelling schedule, …

Love this post by Jennifer Garvey Berger

How are you?

How are you? It’s been a while since I asked myself that question. And the urge to ask that question usually comes up when things are not going so well. This time the question triggers a deep, somewhat relieving breath. As if I’m saying “Yes finally, the right question, thought you’d never ask.” Truth is:…